Scorso

I love the Italian word “scorso.” It is often associated with time, e.g., “l’anno scorso” (last year), “il mese scorso” (last month), “l’estate scorsa” (last summer). It is the past participle of the verb “scorrere”—to run, to flow, to fly. . .. As a noun, it denotes an unintended mistake, most often a typo, made while one rushes through things. I love the word because its sense of fluidity, which is often lost in translation. I am thinking of the word as goldfish odyssey turns one.

My sister’s passing in spring of 2018 brought back lots of memories of my childhood. The images of yesteryears seemed livelier than ever; the colors more vibrant and the sounds sweeter. Dementia haunted my father decades ago. Now, it is gradually stealing away mom’s vivacious spirit. I wanted to preserve my memories of treasurable moments, of people that loved me, and of those who I held dearly while it was still possible.

During the summer months, while friends and colleagues left the city to escape heat and humidity, I began writing. I heard my own voice narrating in English, a language in which I had been thinking and dreaming for decades. I saw images from another place and time, through the eyes and mind of a tiny me—full of curiosity and hope. Gradually, I realized that those beautiful years were only the beginning of my cross-cultural journey. I felt obligated to link the culture that shaped me as a young person and the culture that fulfilled my dreams.

Since my graduate school days, I have kept up with technology sufficiently for my work. On the other hand, social media had (and, for the most part, still has) little to do with my life. The idea of setting up a blog made me uneasy at first. As I continued writing, I consulted with close friends before taking the final steps. I clicked the “publish” button for the first time on August 4, 2018 and never looked back.

Turning my thoughts into words has a calming effect on me. It feels very much like talking to a trusted friend. I am not concerned of who my readers might be. I write about things that are meaningful to me, hoping that it might have some effect on others. Sometimes, I had so much to say and didn’t know how best to start. Sometimes, my fingers moved on the keyboard effortlessly. Those were the moments that mistakes were made—scorsi!

I am very thankful to friends who continue to encourage me, give me advices and gently point out my mistakes. One year ago, I wrote in my introductory page: “. . . the journey has just begun.” Now I should say that the journey continues.

A quiet path

I turned the calendar to a new page.  An image of a quiet path between two stone walls strewn with fallen leaves, long and narrow, presented a solitary autumn image.  Underneath, there was a message: “There is a road from the eye to the heart that does not go through the intellect.  G.K. Chesterton

I grew up influenced by people that taught me how to organize my thoughts intellectually.  I went through years of academic training learning to tear words and notes apart and, then, put them back in good order.  I hardly ever look at an object without thinking about the deeper meaning of its existence.

Friends asked me how I kept so many things in my memories.  The simple answer is “eyes.”  From time to time something special makes my heart cry out, “Look!”  As the shutter opens and closes, the image locks permanently within me.  As years go by, these images accumulated and became part of me, without me knowing.

Mom made me carry a notebook every time we went on a long trip.  She made me keep a travel log at the end each day.  Since she never asked my brother to do the same, I always felt that I was being treated unjustly.  The little notebook in my bag always seemed heavier than a stone.  It made the end of the evening unpleasant.  Mom asked me to recall what I saw during the day.  Sometimes, she asked me to compare what I experienced with the descriptions in tourist pamphlets.  Gradually, this regimen became a norm.  I didn’t keep any of the notebooks, but the special moments lived on.

The path from my eyes to my heart is a solitary one, long and quiet. . . I am letting unlatched the door on one end of the path. . .